(image from: http://www.shannonsusko.com/blog/2015/05/05/food-for-thought-by-bill-gates)
Bill Gates did not write these rules, he did not give a high school speech with these rules, and in fact he is a much nicer and positive person. The original author was Charles J. Sykes: “50 Rules Kids Won’t Learn in School: Real-World Antidotes to Feel-Good Education.”
I want to go through each one, and explain why I feel this mindset contributes to young people (and even older people) feeling horrible about themselves.
Whether you want to call it the winter blues, seasonal affective disorder (SAD) or seasonal depression, the winter season DOES produce feelings of sadness, hopelessness, despair and loneliness in many people. Usually this change occurs between the months of September and April, with many people noticing a serious change throughout January and February.
If the winter months have you feeling suicidal, I recommend seeking professional help from law enforcement, a hospital, your doctor, or mental health crisis centre.
Why Does the Weather Get Us Down ?
New year. New you. For many people, it seems like a great time to start fresh. We can finally start to eat healthier, start an exercise regime, maybe set some money aside in a separate bank account every week (which I actually tried last year, and made it an entire 7 weeks).
Not because I failed at last year’s resolution to save money (but I totally did), there are a NUMBER of reasons I will not be making any new year’s resolutions moving forward in my life.
Every once in a while we come across stories that can be life changing. While reading the book “The Tao of Pooh” by Benjamin Hoff, I was introduced to just such a tale.
We call them wolves, tigers, or sharks. Bears, eagles and lions symbolize their strength. These are the relentless humans who will stop at nothing to achieve. They may be loud, seemingly unemotional and intimidating. Society rewards them with terms such as successful and powerful, and showers them with money. Other people want to either BECOME them, be WITH them, or even just be AROUND them.
Workplace Bullying. It’s the new buzzword on respectful workplace policies.
I was unaware of the term “workplace bullying” until 2013, when I unexpectedly became the target of a bully. It was sudden, because for about 3 years I did not have a toxic relationship with this individual. We graduated the same year from different colleges with the same degree and worked the same job. I considered us equals, although I was aware she was paid more than I was. She did have a habit of coming to work late, and was often negative towards our manager, but I wasn’t the type of person who dwelled on that sort of thing. After about 3 years however, I caught her discussing with another staff member that she had received additional staff discounts and that she knew I had not. I went to management to talk to them about the unfair staff discounts (as I honestly felt we should have received the same discount for the same service), and that they needed to make it right somehow.
Meditate. Yoga. Take a walk. Have a nap. Read. Light some candles. Drink some tea.
These are just a few of the hundreds, maybe thousands of things someone can do as “self care” exercises. Self care is defined simply as doing something you enjoy for no other reason but to show appreciation to yourself.
It’s a great thing, and extremely necessary because people don’t do enough for themselves.
However, self care exercises can easily become another spoke on the wheel of anxiety and judgement.